Not as warm today, and windy,
but still 90 degrees is a bit more that we can handle any more for a very long
period of time.
We had three bucks come into our
garden this morning, nice racks which are still in velvet. So far we have also identified two doe
traveling together and a couple of bucks with spikes.
I told the does yesterday to
move along, they were finding the roses a delectable menu. They looked back at me and then went farther
in the garden and looked back at me – I told them they were to go all the way
out, and they turned looked around the garden for a moment and then headed down
the driveway. They mind better than some
people’s kids.
The bucks, this morning, fed a
bit on the alfalfa and then headed into the neighbor’s yard.
Had a few more tomatoes. Cherries are doing well this year, one of
Teresa’s friends at work has a small orchard and let her and Carla go down and
pick all they wanted. We had plenty of
fresh fruit and canned four canners of quarts.
One of Carla’s coworkers has a
tree and she gave Carla a few gallons, so we are doing well.
Proverbs
3:30 Strive not with a man
without cause, if he have done thee no harm.
There is a professional football
player who is out of control. He has an
addiction – not sure what of but he is absolutely self-destructing.
He put himself in rehab, came
out, said all the right things but he went back to his outrageous behavior and
eventually lost his job. He has little
chance of playing in the NFL again. To
do so would require a visible turning around and live his life in such away that
he can be trusted.
From the accounts I have read
and listened to in the past couple of years he was one of those golden boys in
high school and college that could get away with anything.
He learned how to look humble,
apologize and then shortly after went back to his old form.
He is a gifted player, but he
doesn’t want to work at his craft he wants to rely on his natural
abilities. From his actions he seems to
think that he should be held to a different standard than anyone else, and
unfortunately, from the sounds of it, he has been held to any standards until
his professional football coach benched him and told him to straighten up.
He was given several chances but
continued in his spiral down into the depths of addiction and apparently has hit
bottom yet.
Yesterday his father, afraid for
his son and what is happening in his life, blamed the ‘system’ for failing his
son. He accused the doctors of not doing
their job, when he went into rehab but only lasted a few days and then left,
they should have held him there. It is
THEIR fault he continues to destroy himself.
The father, is like a lot of
parents these days. They enable their
children to do things that everyone agrees is detrimental.
If the child commits a crime, or
doesn’t do well in school or any number of things where he is creating havoc in
his own life and the lives of others the parent doesn’t accept any
responsibility for the actions and blames it on others, they don’t even hold
their child responsible.
The officers are picking on him,
the teachers don’t like him and therefore they are taking actions against him
that are unwarranted and unfair.
It is not my fault, it is
someone else’s. In effect blaming others
falsely, many have tried but haven’t had the support of the parents and the
child is unwilling to accept his role as being in trouble, so it is all the
fault of the professional that must deal with the aftermath of poor
parenting.
Not always is the parent to
blame when a child does things that are illegal or against society, the one
thing that can change even the best child from a caring home and family is the
use of drugs. Once they are addicted
they will do all manner of things that they would never have done before they
started using.
But a big part of the mess we
are dealing with in this world is parents that refuse to be parents. None of us is perfect; none of us have made
every decision, in raising our children, correctly. But we must try and do our best and not allow
society to raise them and then when they go wrong cover for them and blame
society for the failure.
I can remember growing up and
knowing that if I got into trouble my folks would hear about it – often before I
got home – and discipline me – mom had a special frying pan she used as a paddle
– making me aware what I did was unacceptable and it would do no good to blame a
friend for leading me astray.
We tried to raise our children
the same way – and they are doing the same with their children – no not beating
them with a frying pan, a good way to have children’s services at your door –
but holding them accountable for their actions and reminding them it is
unacceptable by administering some form of punishment to drive home the
point.
Unfortunately, more and more we
see just the opposite happening in our society.
The parents are not teaching their children to be respectful of others,
to stand up for themselves, but to also accept the consequences of what they
have done.
While, to some degree, it has
always been that way, it has become an epidemic of ruthlessness and not taking
responsibility for their own actions.
And our nation is going under because of it, among many other reasons, of
course, but this is one of the major blockages to a child becoming a responsible
adult.
Later, Art :-)